This video makes SO much sense to me. I think about this subject a lot, most often about how ideas of success and being ambitious are tied up in salary, level of busyness and a sense of tenacity.
In the past I’ve felt a real underlying pressure to be on a road to a particular kind of success. Not directly put upon me by my parents, more a general assumption that to achieve success I had to follow a particular trajectory i.e. do well at school, go to university, get a ‘good’ job and work my way up the ladder. As I was progressing along this road however something made me question what exactly I was climbing for. I started to think what if I want to be working my way up a ladder, what if I’m happy hanging out on a peg rather than continuing to escalate to new heights of seniority and busyness? I have wondered many times, in doing this am I doing myself a disservice by not reaching my potential? But i've come to the liberating realisation that i'm the one who gets to decide what ‘reaching my potential’ means. I have passions and goals and I do work hard but I have become determined not to be swept up in a quest to have more, more money, more responsibility, more promotions, more possessions, more stress.
It’s not that I don’t want to be successful it’s that my markers of success have altered. Now, success to me is paying the bills doing something that I enjoy rather than dread. I’ve decided that no amount of money is worth me feeling constantly anxious which is how I feel when I’m in a world of busy, busy, busy. I don’t want this for my life. This may mean that I don’t earn the same as my peers but this is a price I'm at peace with paying.
To my 18 year old self I’d say, don’t let anyone else decide what success looks like to you, follow your gut and use the time you might spend worrying about what you think other people want for you on discovering what you want for yourself.