a weapon and a gift

What do we all have that can be used as both a weapon and a gift?
Our word.
This weekend I read ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz, a book that outlines four agreements to follow in order to find personal freedom (stay with me). 
The first one is ‘Be impeccable with your word’.
When we speak we are making a contribution with our words. We can compliment, show interest, connect and we can gossip, humiliate and judge.

The thread that ties them all together is they all have consequences.
Being impeccable with our word is about understanding word not simply as a sound or symbol but as a force – a tool of magic that can be used for good and for bad.
We all bear the scars of words that have wounded us and left a mark – some that have yet to heal.
An off hand comment about being too much of this or not enough of that has the power to embed itself in our minds and set up camp as an absolute truth.
In the chapter Don Miguel Ruiz likens the human mind to fertile ground and words to seeds that are planted and then grow into something much bigger.
This comparison really framed things for me.

Being mindful of what we say isn’t about censoring ourselves or committing to being a Mr or Mrs positive all the time, it’s about being aware of our words as seeds and how fertile the soil of the mind is.
I’m going to make a concerted effort to be more impeccable with my words – the ones I offer up to others and also myself.

God knows I can be so much less compassionate to myself than others. 
I’m going to try to not hold onto the words that can bring healing, lightness, positive change - even if they are for a complete stranger, and to hold firing the trigger on the unnecessary ones that might stick like glue on others, disguised as truths but really just judgement from someone not qualified to judge.